If you're a regular reader of my blog, I hope by now you are as excited as I am about positivity and the science of positive emotions. Over time and with practice, positive emotions influence your thinking and your actions. Your relationships, your productivity, creativity and health stand to improve if you work at increasing the ratio of positive emotions up to 5:1 and even higher.
I can’t stress enough that positive emotions are the nutrients that nourish you. You can change your mind for the better. Over time you accumulate all the micro-moments of positivity to help you deal with negativity and other day-to-day set backs and even painful, life-changing events. Positivity helps you deal with adversity more effectively as it comes up in your life. You build your resiliency muscle.
Micro-moments of Positivity
I recommend you seek out the positive moments in your day and there are likely to be many micro moments, as they are often so fleeting and so very subtle that they can go mostly unnoticed; you take them for granted and you may not even notice them. It could be the chuckle of your baby, or the woof of your dog, your cat rubbing up against your leg to remind you to feed her, the smell of coffee the first thing in the morning, or the taste of that first cup of tea, the glowing light of the sunrise, the color and, the scent of flowers in your vase, the good morning from the bus driver. Just pay attention and you will begin to notice all the positive things that impact your day.
Positive emotions help you prepare for the future, they help you become a better version on yourself. The more positive emotions you experience, they broaden your thought action repertoire, and over time, they build your positivity resources.
Positivity resonance is about the micro-moments of positive connections and experiences. Positivity resonates back and forth between people and the more you become aware of these micro-moments of positivity, the more embodied they become. Here’s a chance for you to build one of the lesser known principles of Appreciative Inquiry, the Principle of Enactment as outlined in an earlier post. It’s taking the action and doing the practice.
In terms of positivity practice, here are some more examples of actions you can share with others to spread the micro-moments of connection: – sharing a smile, enjoying laughter, performing a kind gesture, watching a sunset together, playing a game, telling an engaging story. What you are facilitating is the synching up of two brains so they can become unified and can act as one.
Positivity is Key – Practice Daily
Positivity is a practice. It’s a movement toward what you desire and aspire. You cultivate it for yourself through the language you use, the habits or behaviors you exhibit, the interactions and relationships that you have, and how you invest your time. As you bring more positivity into your life, the accumulative effect is that it slows the rhythm of your heart, opens your mind, and softens your demeanour over time. It’s a rich and broad system that makes up positivity.
In the opening paragraph, I refer to the 5:1 positivity ratio as being a worthy daily practice – seek to experience 5 positive emotions to 1 negative emotion to strengthen your positivity ratio. In her books, Positivity, Love 2.0 and on the website, www.positivityratio.com, Professor Barbara Fredrickson, University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, has tools to help you bring more positivity in your life. After years of research and science, there is abundant evidence that positivity is key to opening you to an expanded worldview and increasing your personal and social resources. It's most certainly a worthwhile investment to build your positivity ratio.
Fredrickson’s list of positive emotions that she invites you to monitor each day include:
feeling amused, awe, grateful, hopeful, inspired, interested, joyful, love, proud, and serene.
How are you increasing positivity in your life? Let me know what works for you and what shifts you are seeing in yourself and your relationships.